What is Pure ? Love or Lust !!!

Well I have the bad habit of questioning absurd questions and defining them myself and thereby wasting my time. Anyways now I am concentrating on the thing called "LOVE" ...... one of the most mysterious phenomenon with human beings (and also other unsocial animals). Well I remember a dialouge from Dil Chahta Hai at this juncture .... "There are many things in this world which are beyond the understanding of humanbeings. So better succumb to this sweet poison before it kills you." Well I dont know exactly what the four word letter means ..... (still then I say to my gf that I love her) .... but I can think to define it. Now we are in 3rd millenium but "Love" was there right from the birth of humanbeings or may be even before. As inherent from the topic I am talking about "Love" between opposite sexes not love for your mother or brother or friend. At this point you can say two guys or gals can Love each other. Well I am actually running out of words but the word which come to our mind here is "HOMOSEXUALITY". Homosexuality although due to chromosomal abberations (in maximum cases) is getting sexual satisfaction with somebody of same sex. If I say I love a guy then you may say he is my friend ..... but if I say I want to spend my whole life with him and I dont even look at girls then nodoubt .. you wll obviously look at my sexual tendency (looking down upon me is quite obvious even if I am not wrong). So my point here is if I say I love a gal or better ..... u say u love a gal (if u are a guy) or a guy (if u are a gal) and I react to you in the same way as you reacted to me when I said I am homosexual then you will start hating me ....." You dont understand what love is. You are sick and only think of Sex. " ..... Well I dont know if thinking about sex is sickness or not but I want to say that although there are many matured people who can understand my point still there is a group of peoples here who hate homosexuality and the same time are straight in nature and say " I dont love for SEX." Well I agree ..... actually you are "BINGO" .... but you are not answering me what I asked. Yes you are correct that you dont started loving your beloved for LUST. ........ I am not a good teacher (neither a good student) ..... so let me try something different.

Biologically all living system have the property of reproduction and so sex is obvious. Nature has made this format ... so being straight is a natural thing. But not being straight is not artificial too. Anyway forget the minorities .... "Straight ... Zindabad." Now if you love somebody of opposite sex my first question is "Why do you love him/her ..... is not it for sex only ??? " If you ask me the same question I will say "No, not ONLY for Sex." And I think you will agree with me. Well Sex is a minor thing infact is just a nonsense (but it is the only way nature has selected for survival and existance and continuity ...... although nowadays other techniques are there they are not used so frequently). What is Love and how it happens is user defined but there are some points common in each loving couple like care, affection, understanding, possesion, trust, relation, friendship and Happiness. Being together makes us happy. Love is the mean of living and is well accepted in society. Yes it is a quite natural thing. In love stories and in many movies we see the height of love. Lovers can go upto giving their lifes for the sake of their partners. Well may seem unnatural to some ie. loving somebody else than your life but love is really capable of doing such things. Loving some body very much can make you do impossible things. But such instances are also available with family members, friends (and in rare cases just for strangers). Well we love our family members , our friends. Love with family members is not serendipity or coincidence, it is natural. You meet some persons in your life after being born and started making them more personal, you developed good understanding with them and called them your friends. Well it is too quite natural. In course of time this friendship becomes intense and you start loving your friends .... pure and unconditional, such that you can give your life from them. (But what statistics says is human mind always cares for his/her spouse more than just friends and also the instances of sacrifices for spouse is much more than for family & friends.)

Now the virus enters in your life .... you loose every thing .... you say you have lost your heart but you still have that 320 pounds inside your ribs ... safe and sound and beating although with different rate. He/She becomes more personal to you than any other buddy. You develop interest and affection for him/her. I am not saying it is bad ... infact it is good and fruitful. The whole world seems beautiful to you. You try to become a good person. You become a Gentleman/Lady. You made yourself what everybody wanted you to be all the time. You are nice man/woman now. Just for a single guy/girl you achieved so many things. When your freinds & family told you to something you denied, you argued and hurt them. Now the same thing told by your beloved you said he/she made me understand things. Family & friends couldnt help me in understanding it. Well do you thing I am wrong? Yah ..... may be in your case but I am speaking of majority. Then you start forgetting friends and family. They are just for arranging your marriage and help you in your bad times.(Also you can become viceversa ie. good from bad) Dont argue with me on this topic. These are phenomenons ... not my opinions. Are you getting me? I am trying to say that one extra girl/guy did it all. Just an EXTRA person. Now dont you think all these are for your happiness. Isnt it for the EXTRA care, EXTRA affection, EXTRA love, EXTRA trust ........all these leading you to enjoy something EXTRA cant be given by just anybody. ISNT IT JUST FOR SEX. Well I am not giving a statement but I am confused. I need your help. Help me in it.

Well it may be beyond human mind but still you can try to understand it. What is it really that matters? Love or Lust ??? Lust is simple, shy and honest .... What is Love then ??? There can be pure Lust ... but can love be pure? What is pure love ? Lust may be a part of Love but ...... is it always so ???? I dont know.I really dont know. Do you know "What is pure? Love or Lust ?